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Monday, July 11, 2011

How to know if she's SINGLE

Imagine a world where all the singles had an "S" etched onto their foreheads and all the unavailable people had a "T" (for taken) on theirs.
Wouldn't that make the world a happier place?
Well, it would surely become uncomplicated, especially for all the woman-hunting men venturing out to find an equally eager woman.
Unfortunately, we don't live in a world where our dating availability is conveniently marked on our foreheads.
Figuring out whether or not she's single takes more detective work, and it may not be determined in just one sitting.
Remember that there is no one giveaway to whether or not she's single -- you'll need to look for several hints to determine the truth until or unless you have the guts to go and ask her straight. 
MY PERSONAL FAVOURITE:
“Live on the edge, you might fall off, but at least you know if it hurts when you fall off.”
By this, I simply mean why do guys have to try some suave and totally transparent ways to find info on a girl? Be bold and confident. It will probably be totally refreshing and new to her, you'll make an impression.
Go straight to her and say= "What's your BF's name?"
If she gives a name = "He's a lucky man"
If she says she doesn't have one = there you go. J
Why do you have to be so concerned or excited about someone you haven't even talked with yet?
But I know that this won’t work for all the guys, especially not with those who are extra shy, lack confidence or are too afraid of rejection and embarrassment of a NO, straight in the face.
And thanks to the existence of many such guys, I will not have to end up here. I will continue with some other ways to know about her relationship status without even asking her.

Ok...so there could be three cases:
  1. You know the girl distantly but not that closely as to know about her relationship status.
  2. You don’t know anything about that girl. You have just seen her and fallen for her.
  3. You have been seeing her over and over at some place and you have started liking her but you haven’t got the guts to talk to her. 
I will try to cover all the scenarios.
Let’s talk about the first one.

You know her distantly so you have got three choices: 
  1. Talk to her friends: ask her friends if she is single. Most friends and coworkers are aware of their friends' relationship status, so their answers will usually be accurate.
  2. Check out her Facebook page: if she has one, and she gives you permission to access it. Social network sites have an area that relates to relationship status. See what the status says, or what she is "looking for," be it friends or relationships. Look through the photos on the site to see if anyone appears with her often enough to be a possible boyfriend.
  3. Hang around: hang out with her and your common friends and see if she gives any hints to whether she likes you or not, this could show that she is single for she is giving hints she likes you, leading to want to go out with you.
That’s all you can do to know what you want about a less known or some acquaintance girl.

Next case is where you don’t even know the name of the girl let alone her friends and access to her facebook profile. You have just seen her somewhere and you have instantly fallen for her.
This is where the job becomes harder.
But let's face it, part of the challenge (and fun) is in knowing who to target and discovering whether they'll take the bait.

Her body language says it all
If you're familiar with the dating game, then you surely know that body language can say a lot about a person, and if she has a boyfriend, then chances are she won't be twirling her hair and looking around so casually. If you muster up enough courage to be around her, try to observe what her body language is saying:
  • She's full of eye contact: 
    unless she's a chronic people-watcher, if her eye contact is darting all over the place as if looking for potential mates, you may be able to checkmate her.
    Women who are already attached usually don't bother looking around the place (unless they're looking for someone they know in particular), as they go out with no intention of meeting men and don't need to check out the merchandise. :p

  • She's making eye contact with you and smiling 
    Eye contact is usually one of the first signs of interest, and if she makes intense eye contact with you, then chances are she wants you to head on over and give it a try.

  • She looks at other couples with sadness
    if you're observing her from afar and you notice her looking at other couples, she could be longing for the days when she was once also attached. That's where you come in.

Finally, the third case where you have been watching her regularly at some pub, club or bar. This one is a little less complicated. All you have to notice are two things: 
  • Out with the girls... again
    Unavailable women do go out and have fun with their girlfriends, but they have to make some time for the men in their lives. If you see the same girl out with her friends more than once at the same bar, within a short period of time, chances are she's flying solo.
  • She's overly friendly
    Don't get me wrong, but attached women tend to be less friendly with other men; they give off a more standoffish attitude when approached. Whether you're at a bar or a club, and you notice that a woman is very sweet and friendly with most men she encounters, it's possible that she's single. Her attitude can be an indication of her status.
So if the signs point to her being single, then gather up all your courage, head her way and work your magic. And if she rejects you, just assume she's already taken – you have to work more to get the right one.
Finally,
You don't need to run through this list mentally to establish whether or not she's single; you can always find out for yourself by approaching her and asking for her number; she may say she already has a boyfriend.
If she says she's already taken, ask her how her boyfriend could bear to let her go out when all the guys must be after her -- you can always see if she's telling the truth by her reaction to this one.
There is a possibility she may be lying, but face it this way: if she lied to you, probably she didn't want to meet you in the first place... Remember, first impression is KEY for attracting women.
If it's actually true, don't worry, that one is taken, but there are a lot of other girls out there who are single.
You just got to ask.
And remember,
  • If she's single but doesn't like you don’t push her into trying to like you this will only make things worse.
  • Don't stalk her. You will either get into trouble or you would lose all the chances of seeing her again.
  • Don't act too shy, even if you are, try not to show it around her
  • Have confidence while approaching her. 

PS-

To ensure and promote success with women you need to believe and assume that the women you approach are AVAILABLE.
Don't waste your time saying things like "if you aren't currently involved with someone", "are you taken" or anything like that.
Why? Because, you set yourself up as a second choice from the start, you present yourself as unsure and unconfident. Don't project the image that you are needy by worrying about 'if' she has a boyfriend or not. That's just not cool, and totally unattractive to women.

4 comments:

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  2. I asked a girl out, and she said that she already has a boyfriend, but suddenly became "overtly friendly". What should I do?

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  3. I asked a girl out, and she said that she already has a boyfriend, but suddenly became "overtly friendly". What should I do?

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  4. Well for me,i noticed that girls whom are more friendly tend to have boyfriend?

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